By Stacey T Pollock

There are many times in life that we might need to debate our own viewpoint and ideas to another. Seeking individually to be heard and understood and given a position of importance in relation to another person’s concepts and beliefs. We look to other people as if they come from some far away place, not really wanting to address their beliefs as having relevance or purpose, only wanting that they believe in us and take into consideration what we feel in our hearts to be truth.

Often there are seen two people talking over each other, not really hearing what the other has to say. They do not care about each others choice of opinion, choosing only to value their own set of rules and beliefs. What is really happening here? Are these two people really communicating or only emphasizing to us the inability for people to truly understand each other. They are unable to give another person a chance to relate ideas and information that might have a creative and influential benefit breaking through structured and cemented ways.

Listening to others shows a person’s ability to allow for creativity and other people to have their own viewpoint on life. No matter the ideas and concepts being brought forth, one really needs to see another person’s information as their individual and unique ideas and not a challenge to their own set beliefs and structures. What this means is that most people take the beliefs and ideas of another as a personal criticism opening up to argument and fighting to try and protect opinion. This opinion really is only a truth through the eyes of the person who is delivering the message and should never be seen as personal or vindictive.

This is the most interesting thing in life that a lot of people do not take into consideration that the words of another are not to be taken personally. They are coming from the emotional state of the other person, driven by that person’s inability to accept another for who they are. Especially if they are words of criticism and aggression, they are really just outlining the person’s inner fears when they present annoyance outwardly, especially when their emotions lead to outburst and displays of emotional uncontrollability. This shows the real nature of their inner thinking, most importantly showing their true fears of life and inability to cope with certain situations when things do not go their way or feel uncomfortable for them.

When a person directs messages of anger towards another they might really be saying, ‘I do not like you in my life because you stop me from being seen as important and getting what I want.’ Or ‘I do not like your opinions on life because they do not fit with mine.’ In some cases when it comes to people looking towards other people’s choices on belief, if they are to have an outburst of dislike, what they are really saying is, ‘I do not feel comfortable with your choices of opinion and cannot accept your words because they do not belong with mine.’ This is the ultimate truth that one person’s ideas and concepts do not belong to another. When a person has an outburst of negative opinion towards another it is from their own inability to cope with the other person’s creative expression, because they feel that it promotes against their own ideas.

The judgment that is occurring here is really not directed toward the person who is criticized, but merely showing the insecurities and fears that the aggressor is having when having to open up and accept another person’s new ideas and choices for belief. It will not matter how much aggression and anger we show to another person this will not change their viewpoint on life. It will only show that the aggressor has fears and cannot cope with allowing differences in life and everyone to have their own valued point of view.

No person has to prove their point of view to another. It is their own singular and unique perception that has value based on the fact that it works for them. If it works for them then it is to be considered a fair choice, especially if the person feels that it gives them a purpose and reason to be in life. One should not deny another their own purpose for life, because if they even attempt such things what they are really trying to achieve is a death of that person’s unique inner drive for life and creation. Not wanting that person to have freewill within their mind, and only to see their way as the truth.

Truth is different for everyone. Belief is based on every person having their own mind in which to think. A mind that is free to choose what it wants to see as truth, no matter the physical obstacles presented in life, and the opinions of others. The freedom we can hold onto is within ourselves and our own level of thinking of how we want life to be seen individually. Belief and choice is a personal experience and if anyone allows another to dictate their own thoughts then it is done by their own choice. We all know that our thoughts are our own, that we have a choice on what to believe or not, and that the real truth comes from within ourselves, based on individual goals and purpose.

The only person that we have to justify our opinion to is ourselves. Within ourselves is the only way that we can be fully understood for our individual reasoning and beliefs, justified on personal experiences and our own choices for life. These choices are showing our creative freedom that we utilize in order to see life in our own way. It is a beautiful, unique and individual freedom that should be valued by each person and seen as relevant towards developing an individual purpose in life. You are the only one that has to believe your choices, the only one who can create upon your life. Belief must then come from within in order to fulfill anything that you desire. Your opinion is valuable, your point of view important, to your own life and path, creating upon your own unique goals and future.